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Apr 2023
19m 16s

Ep. 185 - You don't have to hold onto th...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

In this episode, we explore the idea that we don't have to feel terrible to prove to ourselves that someone treated us poorly. Often, we may feel like we need to be in a constant state of misery to justify making a change or taking action in our lives. But in reality, this mindset can actually hold us back from making positive changes and moving forward.

Through personal stories and reflections, we discuss how negative emotions can keep us stuck in a cycle of inaction, and how shifting our mindset can lead to more productive and empowering outcomes. We also offer specific steps that listeners can take to start breaking free from this cycle and move towards a more fulfilling and happy life.

If you're tired of feeling like you have to prove your pain to yourself or others, and are ready to start taking action towards mental and emotional freedom, this episode is for you.

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