Yesterday

#229: The Hallmarks of a Secure Relationship

A secure relationship isn’t one where nothing ever goes wrong — it’s one where the foundation is strong enough to hold the hard stuff. For many people (especially those with anxious attachment), insecurity doesn’t come from being “too sensitive,” but from being in dynamics that l ... Show More

19m 58s

Jan 29

#228: When You Want More Words of Affirmation — But Don’t Want to Ask (Ask Steph)

In this Ask Steph episode, I respond to a listener question about wanting more words of affirmation from a partner — but not wanting to feel like you're constantly asking for it. This is a really common tension, especially for people with anxious attachment. On one hand, words of ... Show More

7m 33s

Jan 27

#227: The Most Common Forms of Self-Sabotage After a Break-Up

Break-ups are painful — but often, the way we try to cope with that pain can quietly keep us stuck in it for much longer than necessary.In this episode of On Attachment, I walk through five of the most common ways people unknowingly self-sabotage after a break-up, particularly th ... Show More

19m 30s

Aug 2022

#61: Stop Getting Attached Too Quickly In Relationships

Do you get attached too quickly in relationships or become intimate before you're ready? Or even worse, have you ever ended up in a hazy three-year relationship with the first person who gave you attention, or even *shudders* someone ... Show More

21m 4s

Jun 2023

408: Why We Stay In Toxic Relationships

Are you in a relationship that does not feel good to you? Perhaps you're currently in a toxic relationship or you've been in one before? It can feel like you're stuck while you're in it or you may feel you're repeating the same pattern with unhealthy relationships. Listen to toda ... Show More

36m 46s

May 2024

#72 - Is it Normal For Healthy Love to Feel Boring?

Have you ever felt bored in your relationship and worried that something is wrong? Maybe you’ve wondered “is this normal, shouldn’t things feel more exciting than this?” I’ve been there, and this has been a trigger I have struggled with myself, ... Show More

39m 58s

Jun 2022

Relationship to RelationSH*T ft. Jessica Baum

Are things ever going TOO well so your brain forces you to mess it up?Trust me, you’re not alone! As part of our human nature, we yearn for genuine love and affection. We tend to gravitate toward relationships that will reinforce our need for affection and validate our ... Show More

1h 7m

Apr 2021

#7: Turned OFF by "Niceness" and Sabotaging Your Relationships?

Do you feel TURNED OFF (or even disgusted) by healthy, secure partners? Or find yourself pushing away people who treat you well? You might have an Avoidant or Disorganized Attachment Style, but it's possible to change! *Why Do Some Women Easily Attract Extraor ... Show More

31m 6s

Aug 2021

#24: 3 Reasons Why You Lose Yourself in Relationships

Some people say that you can't have everything in this world - Like money, independence AND love? But in this episode, we're debunking that myth. If you're a successful high achiever who feels in control and confident when you're single but totally ... Show More

17m 11s

Dec 2023

Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

Why do you love the way that you love? How do you have the best relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)?Today, Mel sits down with expert in attachment theory Thais Gibson to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your lif ... Show More

1h 15m

Apr 2023

#92: Sketchy "Gurus"- Exposing The Dangers Of The Dating Relationship Advice Industry

Do you go on the internet to look for dating and relationship advice? Ever wondered how to weed out the good from the bad ones? Hey, besties! Today's topic isn't a very fun one but I thought I'd talk about it because it's been happening for ... Show More

21m 1s

Apr 2022

049: Self-love, femininity, & healthy dynamics in relationships with Kelley Bode

We’re having a little chat about self-love, femininity and polarity in this week’s episode and how all these things can impact our relationships, both with our partners and ourselves. My past relationships weren’t always the healthiest (and have even bordered on toxic) so I’m tak ... Show More

24m 31s

#67: Why Healthy Relationships Can Feel ...