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Apr 2023
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#67: Why Healthy Relationships Can Feel ...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm answering the question of why healthy relationships can feel boring - especially if you're someone who's accustomed to drama and chaos in your love life. 


We'll cover:

  • why unhealthy relationships are so addictive
  • the principle of intermittent reinforcement 
  • how to navigate discomfort around stable relationships
  • how to get your needs for novelty & excitement met in a healthy way without sabotaging your relationship

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