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Aug 2021
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#24: 3 Reasons Why You Lose Yourself in ...

Gloria Zhang, MA
About this episode

Some people say that you can't have everything in this world - Like money, independence AND love? But in this episode, we're debunking that myth. If you're a successful high achiever who feels in control and confident when you're single but totally lose yourself and become anxious when you're in a relationship, listen up to today's episode. I talk about why this isn't your fault, discuss three reasons why Attachment is the culprit- Listen until the end to learn how to be that same person who's capable of giving AND receiving love.

*Why Do Some Women Easily Attract Extraordinary Relationships... And Others Struggle?*
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Episode Highlights:

  • One of the reasons why this is happening: You don't know how "NOT" to be the giver
  • The big possibility of attracting people who want to be taken care of because of this "caretaker" mindset
  • Being overly attached to being independent might actually be a "mask" in neglecting your insecurities and vulnerabilities, which is somehow "exposed" when you're in a relationship
  • Being in a relationship might be activating unresolved core wounds of abandonment, trust, neglect or guilt
  • Practicing self-compassion as a way to change these kinds of trauma responses
  • Call to Action: Take back your power and be kind to yourself, get back to doing things that make you safe on the inside, and check out my programs for more helpful tips!

Hey bestie! My mission is to help High-Achievers and people-pleasers heal their Inner Child and find healthy love, especially those who desire an extraordinary connection but often struggle in their relationships.Ā 

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