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Jul 2021
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17 - Love or Trauma Bond w/ Alan Kaufman

ANDREA
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In today's episode, we're diving deep into trauma bonding - what it is, what it looks like, and why growing up in a dysfunctional family puts you at greater risk for trauma bonded relationship in adulthood. Then Andrea is joined by acclaimed writer Alan Kaufman, who shares about his experienced of being raised by a mother who was a Holocaust survive and their trauma bonded relationship.

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Alan's Mother's Letters


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The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes PhD

Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Trauma Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship: Narcissistic Relationship Recovery by Lauren Kozlowski

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