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May 2022
26m 59s

What’s wrong with me that I can’t leave ...

Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.
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Why is it so hard to leave a toxic relationship? What does a trauma bond have to do with it? Dr. McAvoy addresses this issue in this episode. Submit your question to be answered on air here! Resources The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coa ... Show More
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