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Jan 2025
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Jillian Turecki: Breaking Free from Fami...

Lewis Howes
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"Two siblings can grow up in the same home, but have a very different childhood. I was a very, very sensitive child. I picked up on everything." - Jillian Turecki

Growing up as the daughter of a prominent psychiatrist who wrote "The Difficult Child" based on her own childhood, Jillian Turecki's journey through family trauma has shaped her understanding of relationships in profound ways. Despite navigating a complex relationship with her father, who struggled with severe bipolar disorder and narcissistic personality disorder, she emerged with deep insights into how our earliest relationships shape our adult connections. As a relationship coach, she brings a nuanced perspective to the intricate ways childhood experiences influence our choice of romantic partners, often leading us to unconsciously seek out relationships that mirror our earliest emotional wounds.

Her personal story of growing up in an emotionally volatile household, where hypervigilance became a survival skill, offers powerful lessons about healing and transformation. Turecki shares her professional expertise on why many people unknowingly marry someone similar to the parent with whom they struggled most, exploring the unconscious patterns that drive our relationship choices. Her approach acknowledges that while forgiveness isn't always necessary or appropriate, especially in cases of abuse, finding peace with our past is crucial for building healthy relationships.

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