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Mar 2023
15m 14s

330: Self-Image Vs. Public Image

TONYA LEIGH
About this episode

"Fostering a Positive Public Image Through Developing Self-Image"

 

SUMMARY 

 

In this episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of self-image over public image. She is recording from a destination location she has dreamed of visiting for 15 years: The Maldives. 

 

Between snorkeling in an aquarium-like environment every day and playing pickleball with her friends, Tonya is unplugging from technology to enjoy the moment and treat herself like a queen. Inspired and rested, Tonya will be hosting a five-day workshop soon called the Royal Treatment. Stay tuned for more information coming soon.  

 

So what’s the difference between self-image and public image? Aligning the two can create extraordinary results. Self-image refers to how a person perceives and sees themselves, including their thoughts, appearance, personality, and capabilities. Public image, on the other hand, is related to how one is perceived by the external world and is shaped by one's self-image. 

 

This conversation explores self-image, the mental picture you have of yourself, and includes your strengths, weaknesses, and personal characteristics. This is shaped by your experiences, beliefs, and values. Tonya also explores public image, how other people perceive you, and is shaped by your behaviors, actions, and interactions. Although both are important, without a strong self-image, true happiness, and well-being can't be achieved. When working on your public image, it is important to do it in service of who you are becoming, not just to impress others. Doing this work in service of yourself, focusing on your self-image first, will have a positive impact on your public image.

 

What we cover in this episode:

 

0:00:00  Guess where I am?

 

0:01:06   Dreaming of the Maldives and Experiencing the Royal Treatment

 

0:03:17   Exploring the Difference Between Self Image and Public Image

 

0:11:44   The Impact of Positive Self Image on Public Image

 

0:13:43   Aligning Your Self Image with Your Public Image

 

Quotes:

 

Without a positive self-image, you are going to suffer. It doesn't matter how great your public image is. If how you see yourself isn't compassionate and loving and kind and positive, it is going to impact your sense of well being, which is why we always have to bring it back to how we see ourselves. 

 

It's so hard to keep up a positive public image when your self-image is so negative. 

 

It's hard to create what you want unless you're willing to change your self-image to allow for that result. So I will always vote for self-image as being more important than public image.

 

Your public image, on the other hand, refers to how other people perceive you as an individual. It's the external representation that you want to present to others and it's the story that other people have about you and it is shaped by your behaviors, your actions, and the way you interact with other people.

 

 

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