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Feb 2023
56m 34s

90: Liberated Parenting. With Yolanda Wi...

Jeanne-Marie Paynel, M. Ed.
About this episode

How are you creating or finding community to support your parenting efforts? Listen in to find what my guest suggests and is doing herself.

Click here for Show Notes and more from Jeanne-Marie, Your Parenting Mentor

I’m always seeking to learn and improve myself as a human being and this conversation about Liberated Parenting helped me do just that. Learning from others' experiences and points of view is critical in liberating ourselves from harmful and oppressive systems that are still prevalent today.

What We Talked About:

  • Being a Black conscious parent living in the United States today
  • What does it mean to be culturally responsive?
  • CRT; Critical Race Theory explained
  • Getting away from operating from fear
  • The importance of healing and learning from our past 
  • Being willing to ask hard questions
  • Finding and building community
  • Insidious racism that exists today
  • Hope and joy as we usher in the next generation

Things to Remember:

“We have a lot of unhealed childhood trauma and in order to be the best parents we can be we have to deal with it.” 

“If black children are free, then everyone is free.” 

“Everyone exists, not just black people. There’s so many different beautiful ethnicities and cultures that all deserve to be celebrated.” 

“Joy, love, and patience with one another is what’s missing in the world. It’s being overshadowed by fear.”  

“We have to look at how the past is impacting the present.” 

“Reduce the shame of asking for help.”

 Yolanda Williams

“It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.” Audre Lorde 

“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.” – Albert Camus

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