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Mar 2023
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Overcome Shame, Having Kinkier S*x w/ To...

Violet Benson
About this episode

Why is talking about sex in the early stages of dating such a challenge? Could it be the fear of rejection or judgment? Or maybe it's those pesky societal norms telling us to keep things hush-hush.  

Today on Almost Adulting, sex and relationships therapist Todd Baratz is back! Violetta and Todd explores the ways to break down societal norms and overcome the shame associated with sex, practical tips for having open and comfortable conversations about sex with potential partners, how pornography and media influences our views about sex, and offers insights on navigating this sensitive topic with your partner. If you're ready to take your sexual relationships to the next level, don't miss out on the latest insights and expert advice!


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:55 I went to this event last night…
  • 04:18 Do not be too bothered by the society’s standards
  • 06:05 How do you get past s*xual shame?
  • 07:35 Why is it difficult to have initial conversations about s*x?
  • 13:04 Should you disclose your s*xual history to your current partner?
  • 15:44 Have conversations about your expectations right at the beginning
  • 23:25 Sexual chemistry versus attraction
  • 26:07 How do you bring back attraction?
  • 33:57 How movies and p*rn have influenced our views about s*x
  • 37:16 Fact: Not everyone can org*sm
  • 42:24 Do you expect your partner to not watch p*rn?
  • 46:45 When is watching p*rn considered detrimental?
  • 52:32 When should you discuss kinks?
  • 54:17 How soon should you open up about having a child?
  • 57:57 How necessary is your kink for you?
  • 01:00:16 Expressing discomfort about kinks isn’t offensive
  • 01:02:56 Skills is a skill you constantly practice
  • 01:07:04 The relationship you have with yourself in s*xual relationships


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