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Mar 2023
35m 16s

Episode 178: From Sexual Shame to Sexual...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
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While the term “safe sex” might imply that there’s a perfectly safe way to have sex, there’s always going to be some degree of risk, both physical and emotional. Whenever you have sex, you’re making a choice about the level of risk you’re willing to take on in order to experience the pleasures of sex. Everyone has a different risk tolerance, though, wh ... Show More
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