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Sep 2023
58m 42s

You're kinky, but she's not. Can it work...

VENUS
About this episode
Do you want to bridge the gap and find a way to create harmony in your relationship, even if you have different sexual preferences? Are you searching for a solution that will help you achieve a deeper understanding and connection with your partner, despite your varying kinks?Oliver is a returning guest on The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast, known for his insightful perspectives on relationships and sexuality. With a passion for exploring kink and sexual lifestyles, Oliver offers valuable advice for couples facing differences in their desires and preferences. Drawing from personal experiences and a commitment to open communication, he shares practical tips on how to navigate the complexities of being kinky when your partner is not. Oliver's genuine and relatable approach provides a fresh perspective on maintaining a fulfilling and harmonious relationship, even when sexual tastes may differ. His expertise and understanding make him a trusted source of guidance for those seeking to improve their connection and understanding with their partner.The thread that started it all: "A short thread of what to do when your gf is very "vanilla" and seemingly uninterested in exploring kink and even less in exploring sexual lifestyle such as cuckolding" - https://x.com/NordicCuck/status/1696502422745559103?s=20The key moments in this episode are:00:07:26 - Oliver's Thread,00:11:28 - Kink Test,00:12:45 - Working on Alignment,00:13:23 - Vanilla vs. Kinky,00:17:40 - The Importance of Communication and Acceptance,00:19:04 - Seeking Help and Resources,00:20:06 - Supporting Your Partner,00:27:13 - Patience and Timing,00:30:29 - Openness and Willingness,00:35:04 - Understanding the Importance of Vibe in Sexual Relationships,00:36:29 - Exploring Mild Fantasies and Sexual Preferences,00:39:16 - The Benefits and Misconceptions of Using Sex Toys,00:41:58 - Considering Compatibility and Plan B in Relationships,00:44:50 - The Importance of Patience and Open-Mindedness in Relationships,00:52:15 - How the List Helped Others,00:53:11 - Common Challenges in Kinky Relationships,00:54:10 - The Value of Kink and Cuckolding,00:55:17 - Where to Find OliverDan Savage, The 3 things we get wrong about love - https://youtu.be/brZIb4MG8oA?si=wCJZOZqUx6KnyR0b The Savage LoveCast - https://savage.love/lovecast/Sex & Psychology - https://www.sexandpsychology.com/Splash Blanket - https://splashblanket.com/ use code VENUS for discountLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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