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Mar 2023
24m 12s

#155: Stop Self-Sabotaging with This Qui...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Mary has been struggling with self-sabotage so she’s talking about it! Tune in to hear a quick way to stop self-sabotage in its tracks.

Remember: self-sabotage’s close cousin is perfectionism…

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 50: How to Let Go of Control & Perfectionism: https://maryscupoftea.com/50-how-to-let-go-of-control-perfectionism/

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