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Feb 2023
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#52: 6 Tips for Avoidant People in Becom...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm offering 6 tips on how avoidant people can become more secure in their relationships. 

We cover: 

  • the importance of getting to know your inner world
  • learning to feel safe with healthy interdependency 
  • increasing your tolerance for disharmony and conflict
  • getting curious about your triggers before acting on them
  • communicating with words rather than actions
  • the benefits of co-regulation for your nervous system

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