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Feb 2023
18m 6s

#51: How to Initiate Hard Conversations ...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's Q&A episode, I'm sharing tips for initiating hard conversations with an avoidant partner. This is a question I get a lot - how to express needs to an avoidant partner, how to set boundaries, how to share feedback. These conversations are already intimidating for many anxiously attached folks, and when combined with the sensitivities of the avoidant partner, can be a perfect storm. 

We cover:

  • how to set yourself up for success in initiating hard conversations
  • the importance of a regulated nervous system
  • tips for reaching a mutually beneficial outcome
  • how to cultivate greater safety during conflict & challenging conversations

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