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Feb 2023
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How Long Does Limerence Last? - Answerin...

Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Beam Holmes: Experts in Fixing Marriages & Saving Relationships
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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! In this episode, we answer questions from our listeners regarding limerence. Limerence is a state of intense infatuation and longing for another person. One listener asks how long limerence typically lasts, and we explain that it can vary from three months to 48 months, with most cases lasting around two years. While it's p ... Show More
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