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Feb 2023
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#48: 5 Questions to Assess the Emotional...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, we're talking all about emotional health & safety in relationships. If you've ever wondered what "emotional safety" actually means, look no further - we'll be discussing some guiding principles and questions you can ask to assess how emotionally healthy your relationship is.  And most importantly, what you can do to improve the emotional state of your relationship - because let's face it, this is going to be a work in progress for most of us. 

We cover:

  • voicing needs, concerns & boundaries
  • navigating life's challenges as a team
  • ability to safely & effectively repair after conflict
  • feeling loved, cared for & respected
  • how your nervous system can give you insight into your relationship's emotional health

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