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Feb 2023
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#47: "We've been together a year and I'v...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

"We've been together a year and I've just seen he's still using Tinder. Can trust be rebuilt?" Today's episode is a community Q&A, and I'm answering a hard question about rebuilding after discovering a breach of trust. 

We'll talk through:

  • Things to look for when deciding whether to stay & rebuild after infidelity
  • The importance of the other person taking ownership & responsibility for the harm caused 
  • What it really takes to rebuild trust

Recommended resources

  • For a deeper dive on deciding whether to stay or go, check out Episode 19 of the show (Should I Stay or Should I Go?).

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