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Dec 2022
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How Do You Love Without Being Attached? ...

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Today we're tackling some thorny dharma questions. For example: How do you love someone without attachment? How do you love yourself when the self is allegedly an illusion? 


Kevin Griffin is both a long time Buddhist practitioner and also a 12 step participant, and in another previous episode we talked to him about the nature of craving and addiction. In this popular episode from the archives, Kevin talks about his semi-skeptical take on loving kindness – that venerable if somewhat misunderstood Buddhist concept and practice. His book is being re-released this month, with a slightly new title Living Kindness: Metta Practice for the Whole of Our Lives


In this conversation, we talk about:

  • Loving kindness versus living kindness
  • The dangers of modern loving kindness practice 
  • The idea that you don't have to feel love all the time
  • And we talk about a Buddhist text called the Metta Sutta. 


Content Warning: The interview includes brief references to addiction and other forms of suffering.


Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/kevin-griffin-370-rerun

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