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Dec 2022
50m 53s

The Chaser and the Runner: The Pattern t...

Jillian Turecki | QCODE
About this episode
The chaser and the runner, the pursurer and the distancer, the anxious and the avoidant. The push and the pull. This pattern is one of the most common patterns in a relationship and it causes an immense amount of suffering. Jillian teaches that this cycle goes beyond attachement theory and describes how our needs for both connection AND autonomy are the reas ... Show More
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