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Dec 2022

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The Chaser and the Runner: The Pattern t...

Jillian Turecki | QCODE

About this episode

The chaser and the runner, the pursurer and the distancer, the anxious and the avoidant. The push and the pull. This pattern is one of the most common patterns in a relationship and it causes an immense amount of suffering. Jillian teaches that this cycle goes beyond attachement theory and describes how our needs for both connection AND autonomy are the reason behind everyone will struggle with this cycle many times throughout their love lives.

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