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Dec 2022
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How to Stop the War Against Yourself | T...

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It’s possible to actually be addicted to self-criticism, especially as a way to keep yourself safe. But evidence shows that’s not true, and today’s episode dives into strategies to deal with your own self-hatred. 

This is part two of a series this week on forgiveness. In our last episode, Jack Kornfield focused on forgiving other people and in today’s episode, Tara Brach talks about forgiving yourself. 

Tara Brach is a meditation teacher, psychologist and author of several books including Radical Acceptance, Radical Compassion and Trusting the Gold. Her weekly podcast is downloaded 3 million times a month. Tara is also the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Why Tara says self-hatred “divides us from our ourselves”
  • The benefits of learning the habit to stop kicking our own asses
  • Simple meditations to help us with self-forgiveness
  • Questions that can help us understand what really matters to us, and what we really want
  • The power of seeing the profundity in mundane experiences 
  • A refresher on a fan favorite meditation technique: RAIN
  • How to start trusting reality more than we believe the beliefs about ourselves
  • Forgiveness vs accountability

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/tara-brach-534

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