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Nov 2022
15m 25s

#35: 5 Tips for Dealing with Regret & Se...

Stephanie Rigg
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In this week's episode, I'm sharing 5 tips to help you process feelings of regret, shame and self-blame about things that may have happened in your past relationships. Regret can be so crippling, but it can also present us with a powerful opportunity - to reflect, to learn, and to do better next time - and today's tips are going to help you make the most of your regret rather than letting it get the better of you.


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