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Nov 2022
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Why you should apologize even when it’s ...

AMERICAN PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION
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Apologies have the potential to heal relationships, soothe hurt feelings and even begin to address historical wrongs. But they’re not always easy to offer. Karina Schumann, PhD, of the University of Pittsburgh, discusses why apologies matter, what makes for a good, effective apology and what makes for a bad one, whether women really do apologize more than me ... Show More
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