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Jun 2021
49m 38s

The Power of Apologies

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Why is it so hard to say 'I'm sorry?' In part two of our series on forgiveness and apologies, we talk with psychologist Tyler Okimoto about the mental barriers that keep us from admitting when we've done something wrong, as well as the transformative power of apologies. If you like our work, please consider supporting it! See how you can help at support.hid ... Show More
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