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Mar 2024
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379: What Are You Apologizing For?

TONYA LEIGH
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Ditching Apologies: Cultivating Self-Love and Confidence

Over-apologizing can become such a habit we don't even realize we are repeating the behavior.  School of Self-Image host Tonya Leigh discusses the tendency for women to over-apologize and the impact it can have on their self-esteem and confidence. She explores why women tend to over-apologize, including societal expectations and the desire to please others.

Tonya emphasizes the importance of recognizing when apologies are unnecessary and offers strategies for breaking the habit, such as replacing "I'm sorry" with "thank you" and focusing on solutions instead of apologies. She encourages women to take ownership of their space, needs, and voice without feeling the need to apologize constantly.

Tune in to discover how over-apologizing can impact your daily life and learn how to break free from this ingrained behavior.

Episode Details:

00:51 Over-apologizing in daily life

05:32 Apologizing for things beyond control

10:41 Recognizing over-apologizing habits

13:44 Swapping "sorry" for "thank you"

17:52 Refusing to apologize for being you

Quotes:

"I'm so sorry I'm crying. I'm like, why are you apologizing for feeling your human emotions? We should never apologize for having emotions."

"When you apologize for things that aren't your fault, you're basically saying, I'm sorry for having needs. I'm sorry for taking up space. I'm sorry for needing support."

"You have valuable thoughts and ideas to share. You are deserving of taking up space. You are worthy of support and love."

"I am all for taking responsibility when it's my responsibility. But I was taking on the world's responsibility when I was over-apologizing."

"The last suggestion I can offer you is to begin to ask questions with confidence instead of apologizing because sometimes, sorry just becomes a crutch to get someone's attention."

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