The most important thing to understand to beat your social anxiety is what we discuss today: "overcoming subconscious resistance".
When you don't overcome this resistance, you cannot become anxiety-free. Ever.
Lindsay Kenny, one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters, a Life Coach, and EFT AAMET Trainer of Trainers is the expert on subconscious resistance and shares her wisdom on the podcast.
She says "If you haven't been able to overcome your problem you have a subconscious resistance to change."
Consciously you want to change, but your subconscious (which is much bigger than your conscious mind) says: "We're not changing because if I go out into a social situation, I'm gonna get hurt, remember what happened last time?!"
She also guides you through an exercise to overcome this subconscious resistance easily and quickly. This is a MUST-listen.
QUOTE: Conventional psychology says "let's desensitise you from that fear by forcing you to face it, little steps at a time where you grid your teeth and bite your finger nails, have your heart pounding and your knuckles white, and you're just miserable doing it… And all the time your subconscious is yelling NO don't make me do this!! Sometimes this (forcefully facing your fears) does work, but it's so hard to do this. The simple thing is to just neutralise the subconscious resistance to changing.
My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com
Contact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/
Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier
Start here:
Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow
This short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety
It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
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If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away:
Fast Social Anxiety Relief
https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/
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About Seb
Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping.
No forced exposure.
No pressure to perform.
No "just push yourself" advice.
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Scientific research on EFT tapping
https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/
https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full