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Oct 2022
18m 7s

How To Reverse The “Caretaker Role” (for...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode
In this episode, I talk about how (and why) anxious and fearful avoidant attachments identify as “caretaker”, “savior” and/or “fixer” in their relationships and how to shift these roles in order to promote more balanced relationships. ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram ... Show More
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