In this episode, I talk about how (and why) anxious and fearful avoidant attachments identify as “caretaker”, “savior” and/or “fixer” in their relationships and how to shift these roles in order to promote more balanced relationships.
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Sep 10
Dating Securely After Loving an Anxious Attacher
In this episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to date securely after loving someone with anxious attachment. We’ll explore how an anxious relationship can shape the way you experience closeness, independence, reassurance, and even another person’s disappointment—and how t ... Show More
18m 43s
Aug 31
Secure Attachment Taught Me Discernment
In this episode, I’m talking about one of the biggest lessons secure attachment has taught me: discernment. I share how my past relationship patterns shaped the way I chose love, how I’ve learned to separate attachment wounds from genuine incompatibility, and why becoming more se ... Show More
23m 28s
Aug 24
Temperament vs. Attachment: Are You Really Anxious or Avoidant?
In this episode, we’re exploring the difference between temperament and attachment and how qualities like independence, sensitivity, introversion, emotional intensity, or a need for connection can interact with our attachment wounds. We’ll also talk about what happens when two pe ... Show More
20m 7s
Apr 2023
how you can HEAL your attachment style for healthy relationships | anxious & avoidant to SECURE
This covers anxious attachment, avoidant attachment and fearful avoidant/disorganised attachment, understanding all 4 attachment styles, how to heal them and achieve a secure attachment style so that you can get and maintain healthy loving relationships, and STOP SELF SABOTAGING ... Show More
32m 1s
Sep 2025
The Push-Pull and Navigating Second Chances
<p>When you're in a relationship shaped by attachment insecurities, the questions are complex, urgent, and deeply personal. </p><p>In this episode of <b>Decoding Attachment</b>, host Annalisa Bahadur tackles your real-world dilemmas with clarity and compassion, offering acti ... Show More
32m 7s
Apr 2022
#6: Q&A: On Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
<p>In this episode, I'm answering your questions around how to navigate relationships with avoidant partners. We're covering topics like how to effectively communicate with an avoidant partner, whether an avoidant partner will ever realise they're avoidant, whethe ... Show More
17m 21s
Jun 2025
#53: From Anxious to Secure: 5 Indicators of Healing
In this episode, we explore real-life signs that you're moving from anxious to secure attachment - even if you're still a work in progress. Healing anxious attachment isn't just about feeling less anxious; it's about changing how you show up in love, how you relate to yourself, a ... Show More
41m 28s
Jan 2023
#41: Is It Possible to Go from Anxious to Avoidant after Heartbreak?
<p>In this episode, I'm answering the community question of "I used to be anxiously attached, but after discovering my husband's infidelity, I find myself being avoidant with potential new partners. How do I find the healthy middle ground?" We talk about chang ... Show More
10m 3s