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Mar 2021
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17. Are you setting a boundary or are yo...

NATALIE KENNEDY
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This is a juicy one and very humbling. In this episode, I chat with my friend Mollie Birney, a clinical life coach, about the difference between autonomy-respecting boundaries and manipulative boundaries, how to know if you're showing up with an agenda in your boundary-setting, and what to do instead to create a culture of autonomy and safety in your relationship.

 

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