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Jun 2022

19m 40s

#12: How to Set Boundaries

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In this episode, we're talking all things boundaries - what they are, what they aren't, how to figure out what your boundaries are and how to set and enforce them. We'll also discuss why boundaries are the antidote to people-pleasing, the saviour complex and burnout.

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