In this episode, I talk about some key essential elements for deciphering whether your needs are or are not being met in your relationship and what to do. This episode will give you clarity moving forward.
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Values List: https://drive.google.com/file/d/16wyOMzM749bJVtWIAi1dNX89qvxWB_0c/view?usp=sharing
My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilv ... Show More
May 12
The Paradox of Avoidant Healing: Learning to Lean Into Intimacy Despite the Fear
In this episode, we explore the paradox of avoidant healing and why intimacy can feel both deeply comforting and deeply threatening at the same time.We talk about:why avoidant attachers often push away the very connection they desirethe fear of dependency, vulnerability, and loss ... Show More
12m 1s
Apr 21
Building Connection From Stability, Not Emotional Need
Why do we crave connection so deeply… yet feel so unstable in relationships?In this episode, I dive into the difference between seeking love from emotional need versus a grounded, secure place within yourself. I share my personal journey—from feeling anxious, reactive, and lost i ... Show More
15m 43s
Mar 29
The Avoidant Experience: Love, Numbness & Inner Conflict With Bilnita Armstead
In this episode, I sit down with Bilnita Armstead, a listener of the podcast, who shares her experience navigating a dismissive/fearful avoidant attachment style. We talk about how early relationship patterns, often learned from our parents, shaped her view of love and connection ... Show More
36m 39s
Sep 2024
How to Stand Up for Yourself
You want to advocate for yourself more.
But you’re not sure how to do that.
You know you deserve to be heard, but finding the right words—and the confidence to say them—can be tough.
In this episode, I’ll show you 3 simple strategies to stand up for yourself.
Plus, I’ll revea ... Show More
13m 3s
Feb 2025
Needs, wants, and desires: The missing piece in relationship communication
<p><strong>Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn’t get what you need? </strong>Maybe you’ve asked for something (more than once!) and felt crushed when they didn’t follow through. It’s frustrating, right? In this episode, we’re diving into the tricky—but super important ... Show More
37m 40s
Jul 2024
Understanding Anxious Avoidant Attachment in Relationships
<p>In this video, I delve into the complexities of the anxious-avoidant attachment style in relationships, breaking it down into simple terms to help you better understand. </p>
<p>Learn about the dynamics, challenges, and ways to navigate this unique attachment style to cultivat ... Show More
8m 15s
Aug 2025
how to MASTER self-love while dating | detachment, boundaries, & self-worth no one talks about
mastering self-love while dating isn’t always easy — especially when no one talks about the detachment, boundaries, confidence, and self-worth it really takes. if you’ve ever felt like you start shrinking in relationships, this video is for you. i’m sharing the exact mindset shif ... Show More
19m 19s
Mar 2025
S1 EP3 | Let Them + Let Me – The Two-Step Power Move | The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
Welcome to Season 1, Episode 3 of The Messy Podcast!Tagline: Let Them + Let Me – The Two-Step Power MoveIn this episode, we explore the concept of detachment vs. agency, the neuroscience of control, and how proactive ownership can turn detachment into empowered action.Key Takeawa ... Show More
20m 6s
Jul 2024
How to Have a Difficult Conversation
Need to have a difficult conversation, but you're not sure what to say or how to say it?
In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple steps to confidently approach your next hard conversation.
I'll guide you through the exact words to use, how to maintain your composure, and make su ... Show More
12m 14s