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Mar 2023

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#60: 5 Reasons You're Not Getting Your N...

About this episode

In this episode, we're talking all about needs - specifically, looking at some common reasons why you're not getting your needs met in a relationship. It's easy to feel defeated and hurt when our needs are going unmet, but oftentimes there's far more that's within our control than we might think.

We'll cover:

the importance of identifying your needs
how to communicate your needs to your partner
mindset blocks around receiving and how these stops you from getting what you need
what to do if your partner can't or won't meet you in your needs

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