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Oct 2019
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219: Negotiating Frequency of Sex

Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
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If you're in a relationship, there's a likelihood you've dealt with a mismatch is sexual desire. This mismatch can be caused by a variety of factors that can often lead to unhappiness in one or both partners. It doesn't have to be this way! Listen to today's show to learn how to negotiate the frequency of sex in your relationship. In this episode, we discus ... Show More
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