The Gospel of Lightning

Opening poem: "A Choir of Honest Killers" In this episode, Buddy and John explore their birth names, limerence, and revelations such as last year's photo proving that you were actually looking good the whole time, especially when not compared to anything. They also dive into the ... Show More

John and Buddy talk about the importance of directness when it comes to relationships. Buddy struggles with being direct with family members. John discloses a recent real life example of being direct with a friend. Buddy starts the poem titled “Information Man.” [THIS PODCAST IS ... Show More

In this episode John, Buddy, and Vanessa discuss celibacy and balance on their way to the mountains. Buddy ends with a poem titled “Some They Can’t Contain.” [THIS PODCAST IS CURRENTLY ON HIATUS. JOHN & BUDDY WILL BE BACK AFTER DYING THEIR HAIR. STAY TUNED.] 

Today, John unpacks the modern myth of the soulmate — and flips it on its head. Instead of chasing “the one,” he invites us to rethink soulmates as built, not found— and explores how true connection comes not from perfection, but from shared growth, challenges, and the courage to ... Show More

Today, John opens up about letting go of his former life and embracing new possibilities, including a bold move to Costa Rica. He shares insights on personal evolution, the changing landscape of entertainment in the digital age, and redefines love as a state of being. ⁠Single On ... Show More

Today, John talks about the transformative power of honesty. Reflecting on past relationships and personal beliefs, he explores the courage it takes to confront self-deception and encourages listeners to examine where they may be out of alignment. ⁠Single On Purpose School⁠ start ... Show More

Today, John explores love not just as a feeling, but as a conscious choice—one that requires vulnerability, discomfort, deep commitment, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find ... Show More

Today, John shares a client story about a couple, Kayla and Mark, who faced a stagnant marriage. John explores themes of transformation, co-creation, and the cyclical nature of relationships, emphasizing that allowing a relationship to 'die' can lead to a stronger, more authentic ... Show More

Today, John explores the allure of chaotic relationships, the transition to stability, and the need for growth in love. He also discusses the complexities of love and relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding our past experiences, how they shape our romantic live ... Show More

Today, John explores how being fully present can reshape the way we experience life. He reflects on the power of awareness, self-acceptance, the role our thoughts play in shaping reality, and how to deepen connections. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into J ... Show More

Today, John shares a powerful story about a tense Uber ride that became a lesson in compassion. He explores how we can break free from old patterns of reactivity, respond with intention, and lead with love—even when it's hard. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jum ... Show More

Today, John shares how an MDMA experience transformed his outlook on life, love, and personal growth. He reflects on living more presently, setting boundaries, finding deeper connection through everyday joys, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into J ... Show More

Today, John unpacks the pivotal moments that reshaped his life — from a house fire and turning 52, to a powerful medicine journey. He shares how these events sparked a deeper commitment to honesty and emphasizes the value of auditing your commitments, embracing discomfort, and ch ... Show More