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Jul 2022
8m 19s

Get Too Obsessed When You Like Someone? ...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

We’ve all done it. We start to like someone and suddenly we’ve built a whole narrative around what our future could look like with them. They feel like a rare antidote we’ve stumbled across that will take us out of being single and into the relationship we so badly want.

The issue is, in the process of doing this, we rob ourselves of the ability to enjoy the experience—too stuck in our heads to be in the moment.

We also run the risk of self-sabotaging as we try to see danger where there isn’t any.


In this clip, I share an easy and grounding phrase you can use RIGHT NOW to calm yourself down if you find yourself in this situation.


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