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Apr 2021
27m 22s

Understanding Feedback

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to make feedback more palatable. The secret: sort the feedback you receive into three distinct categories.

Many ideas in this episode and last month’s episode are explained more fully in the book: ‘Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well – even when it is off base, unfair, poorly delivered and, frankly, you’re not in the mood.’

Related episodes are:

Unblocking Feedback (from last month)
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Getting Good Feedback
Handling Feedback Effectively
Perception is Reality

In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Feedback
Leadership
Managing Yourself


Tom has three leadership interviews that have gone live this month:

Coaching For Leaders: Episode 518
A deep 40-min dive into “Sorting & Labeling"

Fidelis Leadership Podcast: Episode 37
A wide-ranging 60-min exploration of leadership

Ultimate Leadership Podcast: 02/08/21
A fast-paced 25-min examination of your readiness for coaching


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See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

 

 

 

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