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May 2021
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59. How to Overcome Self-Sabotage and Le...

Janelle Lynnae
About this episode

Is self-sabotage getting in the way of accomplishing your goals?

Sometimes self-sabotage feels like an unstoppable force, but you have the power to change that.

You're going to want to grab a pen and paper because we're getting deep today! 

We're joined with Life and Leadership Coach, Emma Marlatt and we're going to be talking all about self-sabotage.


We'll answer questions such as:

  • What is self-sabotage?
  • How can I work through my self-sabotage?
  • What role does fear play in reaching my goals?
  • What are different methods of self-sabotage?
  • How does confidence play a part?
"You always make time for things that matter."

One limiting belief so many people struggle with is believing they don't have time. We all have the same amount of time in a day: 24 hours. Not having time ins't the issue, it's how you choose to utilize your time.

We self-sabotage by convincing ourselves we don't have time to work towards our goals, when really we're filling our time with activities and chores of less importance. You might have a full-time job or a family to take care of or maybe even both. All those things are very important to put your time towards. It's the endless scrolling on instagram, excessive cleaning, etc. that's used to prolong starting or completing your goals.

"We take away the power from the fear."

Self-sabotage often stems from a place of fear. Maybe you're afraid of failure or embarrassment or the financial commitment of your goal. We can get so deep into our fears that what we want to achieve completely takes the back seat.

You can take the power away from fear. It's so important to surround yourself with a good support system. Talk to them about what's scaring you! By laying it all out, we are already starting to take the power back. You can't do life alone. Community is so necessary. Fear is a part of life and that's okay. But the key is to learn how to live with the fear and be okay with the nerves; don't just let it take you over.

Don't forget to check out these awesome mentionables and sign up for one of Emma's retreats!

Emma Marlatt coaches badass females who are on the go and constantly chasing the next goal. She supports them in creating a life of ease and building a foundation in self love, rather than their worth coming from what the world says of them.

She helps them stop the burn out train and step into a mindset that allows them to be present, have meaningful relationships, and create balance.

Connect with Emma on IG @em_marlatt or check out her website www.emmamarlatt.com

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