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Jun 2022
25m 24s

How living with secrets can harm you, wi...

AMERICAN PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION
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We all keep secrets – on average, people have about 13 secrets at any one time, five of which they have never told another person. Psychologist Michael Slepian, PhD, of Columbia Business School, talks about what types of secrets people keep, why keeping a secret bottled up inside can harm us, how keeping secrets -- or sharing them -- affects people’s relatio ... Show More
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