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Mar 2022
59m 30s

HURT SO GOOD: The Pleasures of Suffering...

Next Big Idea Club
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Some people think humans are natural pleasure seekers. But not psychologist Paul Bloom. In his new book, “The Sweet Spot,” Paul says we’re pain seekers, too. Just think about all the uncomfortable things we do for fun — eating spicy food, climbing treacherous mountains, watching scary movies, engaging in BDSM. Why do that stuff? According to Paul, it’s becau ... Show More
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