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Aug 2025
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Encore -- Why we choose to suffer, with ...

AMERICAN PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION
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Why do people like to watch scary movies or listen to sad songs? Why do we run marathons and raise children, even though both of those pursuits come with struggle and pain? Paul Bloom, PhD,  discusses why suffering is linked to meaning in life, the connection between pleasure and pain, and the difference between chosen and unchosen suffering. Please take ou ... Show More
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