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Feb 2022
21m 7s

Why we choose to suffer, with Paul Bloom...

AMERICAN PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION
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Why do people like to watch scary movies or listen to sad songs? We do we run marathons and raise children, even though both of those pursuits come with struggle and pain? Dr. Paul Bloom discusses why suffering is linked to meaning in life, the connection between pleasure and pain, and the difference between chosen and unchosen suffering. Links Paul Bloom, ... Show More
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