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Jun 2025
51m 15s

Ouch! That Feels Great

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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We generally think of pain as something to be avoided. But psychologist Paul Bloom says that as much as we're wired to avoid suffering, we also seek it out. This week, we begin a two-part mini series about the curious pleasure we take in certain forms of pain. 
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