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Sep 2020
28m 46s

EC 158: Stop People Pleasing and Compuls...

HARRIET MORRIS, EATING PSYCHOLOGY COACH
About this episode

Go to https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/to find out about next month’s coaching programme for people pleasers who want to get their life back.

Have you ever stopped to consider that there could be a link between people pleasing and compulsive or binge eating? 

In this episode, I explain what I believe the common root cause of both of these experiences is.

I also give you three ways to stop being so damn nice to everyone at the expense of your own self respect.

Quote of The Week

Comes from Rita Mae Brown

 

The Stop People Pleasing Coaching Programme - enrollment open now!

Do you long to accept yourself, but have no idea how to do this?

Would you like to develop emotional resilience and navigate life more powerfully?

Would you like to learn how to stand up for yourself and say no without being aggressive?

Do you want to build your self confidence in a real way, without having to fake it til you make it?

Would you like to learn how to put food out of the job of life manager?

Do you want to learn how to become the role model that you long to be? 

Who Is This Programme For?

I have designed this programme for empaths. 

An empath is someone who has a strong tendancy to soak up others’ emotions. There are many positive aspects to being an empath such as an ability to read people well and high intuition. However, most empaths are so weighed down by how their emotional sponge nature has taken over their lives that they fall into the habit of people pleasing, finding it hard to say no and stand up for themselves. 

The aim of this transformative 8 weeks is to shift how you are showing up in the world by learning to rein in these disempowering behaviours and start playing to your strengths. 

 

How The Programme Works

This programme has two separate strands.

#1 The Empath Sessions

Managing your empath nature, self acceptance and how to start showing up in more powerful ways so that life becomes rewarding instead of draining for you.

1 x 90 minute session a week over 8 weeks

 

#2 Eating Psychology Sessions

Put food out of the job it was never meant to do.

This part of the programme comprises 4 x 90 minute sessions that give a solid foundation of how to eat better using the principles of eating psychology. You will dive in and try out doable food-rebel proof changes that are not too extreme. These changes have been shown time and again to reduce cravings and binge eating. We look at the HOW of eating, which is a hugely underrated part of reclaiming your life from food. I devote a whole session to sugar and give you some practical ways to free yourself from those little white granules. 

 

IMPORTANT: If you have worked with me previously, or you do not have eating issues, you can choose to omit part 2.  The programme fees will be reduced by 25% if you opt to just attend the empath sessions

 

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