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Dec 2021
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Is telling them you're leaving better th...

PAUL COLAIANNI
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What's the best course of action when it comes to leaving the emotional abuser? Should you sit them down and have the "the talk", or is talking going to get you sucked into another conversation that causes you to stay out of guilt or being convinced you're wrong?

They're likely to convince you of doing things their way so it may not go any differently during "the talk."

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