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Jul 2018
11m 8s

Stop Trying To Change Yourself

MARK MANSON
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Trying to change yourself—that is, who you are—will inevitably lead you to fail and feel hopeless. But if you instead focus on changing your actions without worrying about how it changes you as a person, real change becomes much simpler.  
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