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Oct 2019
28m 56s

5 Tenets of Negative Self-Help

MARK MANSON
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"Negative Self-Help" — an approach to personal growth based not on what feels good, but rather on what feels bad. Because getting good at feeling bad is what allows us to feel good.  
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