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Nov 2021
19m 59s

Afraid of staying and afraid of leaving

PAUL COLAIANNI
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When you've had enough and you can't take anymore, but you stay and take more, you end up in an endless cycle of love and abuse. If you're afraid to stay because things are bad, but also afraid to leave because you don't know any other way to live your life, it's time to get real clear on what you really want.

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