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Jun 2016
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Why Being a Virgin Isn’t a BFD

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode
For any woman, it’s extremely tricky to answer a guy’s question, “So…how many men have you slept with?” But what if you’re a virgin? How do you tell a guy you like without making it weird or freaking him out? I get asked this question a lot, and today I’m going to tell you just what to say, how to say it, and – most importantly – how to respond to his reaction. Oh, and by the way, we’re also going to talk about why being a virgin isn’t a B(ig) F(reaking) D(eal) to begin with. So relax already!

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