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Sep 2025
16m 29s

Do Men Even Like Us?

Zoë Lilou
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This is the episode where I say out loud what I’ve been living: I don’t even sleep with people anymore, because it never feels genuine. We’re taught as women that being chosen is the ultimate goal but what happens when men don’t even respect the women they choose? From baggy clothes to frat-boy group chats, from internalized misogyny to the male loneliness crisis, this conversation gets messy, vulnerable, and very real.

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