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Oct 2021
51m 52s

Being Kind to Yourself

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Self-criticism is often seen as a virtue. But psychologist Kristin Neff says there’s a better path to self-improvement — self-compassion. She says people who practice self-compassion are more conscientious and more likely to take responsibility for their mistakes.

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