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Oct 2021
51m 52s

Being Kind to Yourself

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Self-criticism is often seen as a virtue. But psychologist Kristin Neff says there’s a better path to self-improvement — self-compassion. She says people who practice self-compassion are more conscientious and more likely to take responsibility for their mistakes. If you like our work, please consider supporting it! See how you can help at support.hiddenbra ... Show More
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