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Aug 2021
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Is it me or them? Difficult people that ...

PAUL COLAIANNI
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How many times have you thought you might be the problem when the reality might be much different than that? Are you the honest type that will take responsibility when you discover you're at fault for something? Are they? Lots of questions that deserve answers. It's time to figure out if it's you or them. 
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