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Jul 2021
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Tiffany Dufu: Do What You Do Best, Drop ...

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About this episode

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed by all of the things you need to juggle in order to be a good... anything? A good partner, a good parent, a good worker, a good friend? And in the end, it feels like you never have enough time and energy to focus on what really matters to YOU?

In this final episode of Season 7, Tiffany Dufu invites you to stop being "good" and drop the ball.

Tiffany is the author of Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/drop-the-ball-en [1], and for her, dropping the ball means letting go of unrealistic expectations of doing it all, and engaging others in the process, so that you can live a life that you’re passionate about.

Tiffany explains the repercussions of juggling too much, helps you find out why all these balls ended up in your hands in the first place, and finally, how to know what you can start to let go of. She also talks about the importance of having people in your life who hold you accountable for living your best life and being your best self—an idea she's bringing to life in her project The Cru https://www.thecru.com/ [2].

Book recommended by Tiffany:

  • Just as I Am: A Memoir, by Cicely Tyson

Books recommended by Ben & Caitlin:

  • Brave, Not Perfect: Fear Less, Fail More, and Live Bolder, by Reshma Saujani
  • I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time, by Laura Vanderkam

Find Simplify episode with Laura Vanderkam here:
https://www.blinkist.com/magazine/posts/simplify-time-laura-vanderkam [3]

Ben also mentions the Japanese concept of Ikigai, that roughly translates as ‘reason for being’.

Try Blinkist for free for 14 days by going to https://www.blinkist.com/simplify [4], tapping on Try Blinkist at the top right, and entering the code DROPIT.

Let us know what you thought of this episode, or just come say hi on Twitter! Find Caitlin at @caitlinschiller https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [5], Ben at @bsto https://twitter.com/bsto [6]

Simplify is produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler and Marta Medvešek. Big thanks to Luiza S. Carvalho for audio engineering chops and Odysseas Constantinou for music.

[1]: https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/drop-the-ball-en
[2]: https://www.thecru.com/
[3]: https://www.blinkist.com/magazine/posts/simplify-time-laura-vanderkam
[4]: https://www.blinkist.com/simplify
[5]: https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller
[6]: https://twitter.com/bsto

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